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Where to report an issue? What type of an issue is it?

How to name the issue?

May be very useful, when EVERYTHING is being questioned.

TODO: dictionary of common issues (connected to tags in the testimonials?)

Also, in the knowledge zone:

• get to know the play and its characters, an article at PsychologyToday
• A podcast about ostracisation in NGOs (in polish)
• A podcast about cancel culture (in polish)

Resources about discrimination:

• awareness raising solution

A mediation?

Consider hiring a mediator.

Consider asking someone from the community to mediate.

Get legal advice?

Mutual aid support groups?

• Consider joining Karrot’s Forgotten People group on karrot.world, for being excluded/consented-out from a flat structure, self-organized groups of people
• Free software Duchesses in EU matrix group

Consider getting professional emotional support.

Consider leaving the project.

the myth of closure and how to learn to live with the trauma - an article at PsychologyToday

Consider other professions.

Other resources?

• A very informative article about ostracisation at PsychologyToday.

  Useful also to share with others to let them know what you are/were going through.

1. What Does Ostracization Look Like?

Ostracization, or the exclusion of a person by an individual or group.

2. Why Do Workplace Bullies Use Ostracization as a Weapon?

high impact, low risk

3. Why Does Ostracization Hurt So Much?

evolutionary and neuropsychological perspectives

4. How Does Ostracization Promote Conformity, Stifle Creativity, and Discourage Whistleblowing?

effects on a work culture

To reestablish group membership, the high performer is pressured to play small or resign, perpetuating a stifling and sometimes toxic workplace culture.

Employees who value justice and fairness over loyalty and conformity tend to be the ones who report abuse and violations of laws and ethics.

5. What Tools Are Available to Help Targets Cope With Ostracization?

• maintaining multiple social circles, to meet the basic social needs elsewhere when cut off at one
• mindfulness practice, to mitigate the pain
• social surrogates, or symbolic bonds that provide a psychological connection:
  • Parasocial
    in which we form a one-way connection to people we do not actually know but who bring us happiness,
    like watching a favorite actress in a movie or enjoying a concert by a beloved musician.
  • Social World
    in which we find escape and calm by transporting to another universe through books and television,
    such as, situating ourselves in C.S. Lewis’s Narnia
  • Reminders of Others
    where we use pictures, home videos, mementos, and letters to connect to the people we love and who love us back.

Social surrogates have also been shown to benefit trauma victims, who seek comfort from activities and rituals, instead of opening themselves up to reciprocal human relationships that may put them at risk for re-traumatization.

Though some assume leaning on social surrogates is a sign of maladaptation and deficiency in personality, recent research indicates that social surrogates are correlated with the development of empathy, self-esteem, and other prosocial characteristics of healthy human development.

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